Some toddlers sleep deeply even when their co-sleeping parents leave the bedroom. Others become anxious sleepers unless the parent stays right there. Depending on his mood, and his level of exhaustion, Kingsley oscillates between these two. Eliminating issues around emotions, hunger, nightmares and health, Kingsley wakes frequently because he has a need for our presence. I have come to understand and accept this about our boy.
We consider Kingsley to be a securely attached baby. He seems content to remain asleep for a couple of hours at a time…and then he wakes, stirs, and wonders where we are (usually accompanied by a moan and if not caught quickly enough, a full blown bellow).
And we are fine with this (at least at the moment), for we create wonderful bedtime rituals that the boy thrives on, and as a result, he falls asleep and stays in bed peacefully.
The way I see things, when children are young, it is the security of our physical presence that allows them to relax and enjoy a deep, fulfilling slumber…